We all want to know how to feel sexy and we all want to feel good about ourselves, especially when we are learning to pole dance. It really does suck to wake up in the morning, look in the mirror, and listen to all the chatter upstairs about how bad our body looks. This same chatter can resurface in pole dancing class as well because you are dancing in front of mirrors.
What good does all that chatter do? Does it really help you to think bad things about your body – even if there is room for improvement?
No, it doesn’t.
Subconsciously, many people think that by reminding themselves about what needs to be fixed on their body (like fat thighs or belly fat) will motivate them to actually fix the problem. This is a huge misconception.
Beating yourself up mentally about how ugly you do not motivate you. Think about it, if that were true, wouldn’t you have changed that thing you hate so bad by now?
So the first step is to recognize that the negativity you mentally think about your body is not helping you, in fact, it is hurting you.
You can’t think positive and know how to feel sexy when your mind is filled with negative thoughts about yourself.
A good example of this concept is a closet completely full of old clothes. If you wish to wear a new style and change your wardrobe then you must first throw out some, if not all, of your old clothes before there is room for the new clothes. Thoughts are the same.
So how do you get rid of old thoughts?
Practice loving yourself REGARDLESS of how you look. Recognize that you deserve love no matter what you look like. Every time you start to think a negative thought, catch yourself and simply say “I choose not to judge myself today” and think of a more positive thought.
Catching all of your negative thoughts can become overwhelming so don’t necessarily focus on what you are thinking all day but rather focus on how you feel. If you are feeling bad about yourself, then let go of the bad feelings as best you can. Remind yourself that it is not helping you to think that way and that you deserve love no matter what. You don’t have to be perfect or do things right all the time to deserve love, it’s yours regardless.
One great tip to let go of negative emotions about your body is to allow the emotion to be with you. Just take a moment and sit with it. Allow it to be a part of your experience, don’t judge it as good or bad, but rather just allow it to be part of your experience. Move into the feeling rather than rejecting it.
You may find that the feeling dissipates and you can choose a more positive line of thinking that will make you feel better.
Practicing loving your body is a first step to truly feeling sexy. When you start to dance on a pole dancing pole in front of a mirror, those negative emotions may come up into your conscious mind. If you practice loving yourself during the day, you will easily be able to deal with these emotions when you practice your routine or watching a pole dance video lesson.
The more you let go of negative emotions while you are pole dancing, the more you can actually embody the feeling of knowing how to be sexy and confident.
Start practicing this today!