how to feel sexy and confident when pole dancing

We all want to know how to feel sexy and confident and we all want to feel good about ourselves, especially when we are pole fitness dancing for exercise regardless of our weight.  It really does suck to wake up in the morning, look in the mirror, and listen to all the chatter upstairs about how bad our body looks.  This same chatter can resurface in pole dancing class as well because you are dancing in front of mirrors.

What good does all that chatter do?  Does it really help you to think bad things about your body – even if there is room for improvement?

No, it doesn’t.

Subconsciously, many people think that by reminding themselves about what needs to be fixed on their body (like fat thighs or belly fat) will motivate them to actually fix the problem.  This is a huge misconception.  

Beating yourself up mentally about how ugly you do not motivate you.  Think about it, if that were true, wouldn’t you have changed that thing you hate so bad by now?

So the first step is to recognize that the negativity you mentally think about your body is not helping you, in fact, it is hurting you. 

You can’t think positive and understand how to feel sexy if your mind is filled with negative thoughts about yourself.

A good example of this concept is a closet completely full of old clothes.  If you wish to wear a new style and change your wardrobe then you must first throw out some, if not all, of your old clothes before there is room for the new clothes.  Thoughts are the same.

So how do you get rid of old thoughts and learn to chill out?

Practice loving yourself.  Thank yourself.     REGARDLESS of how you look.  Recognize that you deserve love no matter what you look like.   Every time you start to think a negative thought, catch yourself and simply say “I choose not to judge myself today” and think of a more positive thought.

Catching all of your negative thoughts can become overwhelming so don’t necessarily focus on what you are thinking all day but rather focus on how you feel.  If you are feeling bad about yourself, then let go of the bad feelings as best you can.  Remind yourself that it is not helping you to think that way and that you deserve love no matter what.  You don’t have to be perfect or do things right all the time to deserve love, it’s yours regardless.

One great tip to let go of negative emotions about your body is to allow the emotion to be with you.  Just take a moment and sit with it.  Allow it to be a part of your experience, don’t judge it as good or bad, but rather just allow it to be part of your experience.  Move into the feeling rather than rejecting it.

You may find that the feeling dissipates and you can choose a more positive line of thinking that will make you feel better.

Practicing loving your body is a first step to truly getting how to feel sexy, not getting the best dancers body that is toned and lean.  When you start pole fitness dancing in front of a mirror, those negative emotions may come up into your conscious mind.  If you practice loving yourself during the day, you will easily be able to deal with these emotions when you are pole fitness dancing.

The more you let go of negative emotions while you are pole fitness dancing, the more you can actually embody the feeling of being sexy and powerful.

Start practicing this today!

Summary for this article: Let go of the bad thoughts and feeling about your body so you can make room to finally feel good about yourself. 

Feeling sexy is a mindset, not something that is achieved by having the best looking body on the planet.  Pole dancing will naturally help you deal with these emotions and get you on the path to truly feeling sexy and confident.


    14 replies to "How To Feel Sexy And Confident When Learning To Pole Dance"

    • Felix Tew

      Fantastic Article!! “Practice loving yourself and thanking yourself” are very powerful things to do! I have so appreciated your website and lessons for the past couple of years. I began pole fitness lessons, had a pole installed in my home then my teacher stopped her classes. YOU have been such a blessing in helping me in this area! Thank You! As a teacher and a counselor I have appreciated all you have done!! I enjoy passing your messages on to others!!!

      • Danna

        Thank You so much! Much Love back, comments like these and sharing the social love help me stay motivated to keep going and keep making more videos. I enjoy knowing that I am making a positive difference, so thank you so much!

        • Cecilia Monet

          Thank you for this candid and loving article full of information

          • Danna

            You are very welcome! So glad to help : )

    • Alicia Lemus

      Thank you beautiful!! You are always such a great help. You are a blessing for me and the world.
      I encourage everyone to buy and use your courses and products. They are really helpful and extraordinary.
      Thank you always for being a friend in my way to loving myself!!

      • Danna

        You are so welcome Alicia, it is my pleasure! Truly! It makes my heart warm that you are really walking out the steps to love yourself, your body, and your life! The emotional development from pole dancing is my favorite part and I never get tired of hearing how much women gain from it! <3

    • Dominique

      This is super helpful as I have just started taking pole classes. When I saw the mirrors in the classroom I immediately focused my attention at the floor because I just can’t stand looking at myself in mirrors some days. I hope to grow more comfortable with myself as I go, but it’s going to take time. Thanks so much for this article!

      • Danna

        Your are very welcome! I am glad it helped <3

    • Marica

      I wanna thank you for this article. I am a plus size poler. Majority of my students grief is the way they look I’m the mirror. I’ve build up my confidence through pole fitness. I wish to continue to do pole fitness. As a career. Thanks for the encouragement. Smooches

      • Danna

        You are very welcome! Happy to help! I think we all need all the encouragement we can get 🙂

    • Latoya

      WOW! That was very helpful and it changed my whole mind frame about my body image. Thanks so much Danna

      • Danna

        You are most welcome!<3

    • Crystal

      I think you’re awesome!I’m looking forward to my new pole. I’ve been viewing your lessons. Love the newsletter too.

      Crystal Rose
      The Hippy Gypsy

      • Danna

        Thank You Crystal : ) Im happy to have you part of my pole family, keep dancing and growing!

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